Easy, Refreshing, Produce-Filled Summertime Dinners


I'm sure loving the cool, refreshing summer dinners
 I'm making with our organic, non-GMO, local produce from Harvest2U!


If you're local to Southern California, hopefully you've taken 
advantage of their generous offer I posted about a few weeks ago?  
You can almost get a FREE produce box!  The link is also below.




Here are some of my favorite and easy dishes we've been enjoying, 
because no one wants to be in a hot kitchen in the summer!

By the way, you'll notice I rarely list recipes in "proper" form, with 

quantities and detailed instructions, because I find that tends to make folks think a 
recipe won't work without each specific thing, which is so far from the truth!   
I apologize to A-types :)  My approach may be too loosey-goosey for you...
but I encourage you to experiment and supplement items...
the on-the-fly-with-whatever-is-in-the-fridge meals usually 
create delicious new things!

Mozzarella + Basil + Tomato



Easiest. Dish. Ever.  

Place all on a plate, drizzle with some olive oil and balsamic vinegar (we are loving our Temecula Olive Oil Company's Fresh Basil Olive Oil and Fresh Pomegranate Balsamic Vinegar!), and a dash of sea salt, and enjoy!

Tuna or Chicken Salad Lettuce Wraps


Make your tuna or chicken salad, adding whatever produce you may have:  diced onion, carrot, celery, fennel leaf or root, dill, parsley, pickles, cucumber, salt and pepper.  Plop a big scoop on a plate along with a pile of big lettuce leaves and voila!  Tuna / chicken salad wraps!

Spinach + Apple + Cheese + Walnut Salad 


Whole spinach leaves, chunks of apple and walnuts, and any cheese makes a quick, easy delicious dish!  I love goat cheese on it, or any hard cheese like pecorino or manchego.  Toss on some olive oil and balsamic vinegar, sea salt and pepper.  Deconstruct it and put each item in its own little dish for the kiddos to pick at!  


Kale + Caramelized Onion + Walnut + Sunflower Seed + Dried Cranberries + Pomegranate Seed Salad


Wash that kale well, hopefully tossing the water in your yard / garden, and then toss it all by hand with some olive oil, vinegar, sea salt and pepper, or your fave dressing, so that your fingers soften up the stiff kale.  







Spinach Salad


Chopped spinach, hard-boiled egg, crumbled cooked bacon, and caramelized red onion tossed with a basic oil and vinegar dressing to which we like to add a spoonful of bacon grease...yum!


Kale Chip + Quinoa Bowl 


Prepare your quinoa in rice cooker or stovetop (I like to use my homemade chicken broth instead of water).  Toss your washed, torn kale in a big bowl with a couple tablespoons of melted coconut oil, some sea salt and whatever other spices you like (paprika, turmeric, garlic powder, onion powder, sea salt).  Spread in one layer on a baking sheet (I like to cover with parchment paper for easy clean-up) and put in oven on Lo Broil.  





Watch it CLOSELY as it can quickly burn!  

It only needs about 4 minutes or so to get nice and crispy.  My kids gobble the kale chips up right off the pan but I like to put some in a bowl with a scoop of quinoa smothered in grass-fed butter (or Kerrygold butter is wonderful!).  








Easy Naan + Veggie Pizza 


I recently bought a 12-pack of La Brea Bakery's Naan Bread at Costco, and threw it in the freezer.  When the mood strikes for a quick, easy pizza / flatbread, I take out a few pieces, and invite the kids to a pizza-making party!  Super handy for those nights when we have extra friends and neighbors over swimming!  We coat them with any sauce we have available (pizza sauce, marinara sauce, plain tomato sauce, pesto, even plain olive oil with sea salt!), sprinkle on any cheese we have, and let each person go to town topping their personal pizzas with whatever veggies we have on hand:  spinach, tomatoes, mushrooms, olives, caramelized fennel or onion, thin summer squash slices, artichoke hearts, the sky is not even the limit!   

Bake at 400 until the cheese is bubbly and edges getting crispy.



What are some of your favorite, easy, summertime dishes?  I'd love some new ideas, so please share!

Want to take some time off from cooking this summer?   Check out EAT@Home, Harvest2U and EAT Marketplace's farm-to-plate meal delivery program (with free delivery!) showcasing their organic, non-GMO local produce and meats.  


And be sure to check out my post on Harvest2U to grab their coupon code for a very-generous $25 off a produce box...that will almost get you a FREE box!   


Happy lazy, popsicle-filled summer days to you!  

Love + light ~

Kim

Why You Should Join Your Local Produce CSA...and A Huge Discount on Harvest2U CSA for SoCal'ers!

                   Do you get in big ruts with your grocery lists and meal planning?  Boy, I sure do.  My                    go-to veggie for the kids most nights is cucumber and carrots dipped in their                                   favorite Italian salad dressing.  After a few nights of this, they aren't so eager to eat their veggies, and I get frustrated at myself for not having thought up other options.



Enter this photo.









I posted it on my Facebook thread recently...did you see it?  


This gorgeous bounty of fresh, organic, non-GMO produce was delivered to my doorstep, thanks to Harvest2U, an organic, non-GMO produce CSA (Community Supported Agriculture) serving most of Southern California, that partners with our local Temecula EAT Marketplace and EAT@Home (prepared and delivered meals) to offer the freshest, healthiest produce one can find.  


With a produce delivery, I did not have to think anything out, plan a shopping trip, or scour price comparisons...and it even resulted in my children trying 3 new vegetables they'd never had before!

But if I'm being honest, I used to think produce CSA's were kind of a waste of my grocery money, for 3 reasons I've negated here:

1.  COST 

I'm going to be honest again:  I priced out what was in my Harvest2U box (head of romaine, bunch carrots, 1 pkg blueberries, 2 onions, 3 oranges, 5 zucchini, 2 cucumbers, kohlrabi, kale, parsley, dill, rainbow chard, huge fennel, green beans, and bunch radishes), and for the same organic produce at Sprouts, the Harvest2U box was actually $5-6 less expensive!

Now wait, I know what you're thinking:  "I wouldn't normally buy half that stuff anyway, so it actually increases my grocery bill."

But here's where I spout honest truth, again.


Having more veggies around, especially kinds that you don't normally eat and are forced to figure out a way to work into your meals, actually saves you money!



*  Instead of making a big sandwich with some deli meat and cheese (expensive!) for lunch, my husband grabbed just 2 slices of deli meat, the cucumber dill "tzatziki" I'd made that morning, a handful of crackers, and some carrot and kohlrabi sticks, and went to town!  So he ate less than half the meat he would have put on his sandwich, and added a double dose of veggies (and greek yogurt) he wouldn't have otherwise eaten. (Recipe below)

*  Instead of scrambling 6 eggs for one breakfast for the 4 of us (half a $4.99 organic egg carton in one morning!?!?), I used one, yes one, little egg to mix with my zucchini dill fritters.  So, again, less animal protein being eaten, and waaaaay more veggies. (Recipe below)




*  Instead of grabbing a quick cheese stick or apple or reaching for carbs in the afternoon, the kids and I have fun throwing that apple in the Vitamix, along with carrots and whatever else they want to try, and make a quick juice that packs infinitely more nutrition than a processed snack.

* Instead of 2 chicken breasts in my chicken and veggie stir-fry, I got away with putting just 1 breast in, and adding a ton more chopped veggies with the hearty fennel, kohlrabi and chard.  I used the other breast for chicken salad, adding kohlrabi, dill and carrots to it, as well.

We absolutely, without a doubt, ate double our normal vegetables, and much less animal protein and carbs.  And we all know how those meats, cheeses and processed snack foods can add up!

Now, I think I know what you're thinking again...and it leads me to #2:  "Who has time to prep all that produce?"

2.  TIME 

You get it all done in one fell swoop and actually save time throughout your week.  I always plan for the day I'm going to get my box and take an hour to:

  * wash it all
  * pluck/chop herbs and put in bags
  * peel some carrots and chop and put in water in fridge for easy snacking
  * throw onion in food processor to have it pre-chopped/sliced for dinners
  * chop and bag lettuces for sandwiches/salads
  * set aside big bag of some of all for my green juicing
  * look up recipes for any produce i'm not familiar with
  * plan my week's menu based around the produce, rather than based around an animal protein, and buy the remainder of my groceries as needed.




One hour.  Done.  Prepped for a week or more of snacks, lunches and dinners.  Not to mention the kids have fun checking out all the goods and munching as they help!




And, since I'm psychic, I know that you're now thinking, "Umm, my kids might munch on the blueberries and carrots, but not much else."  Which, leads to #3.

3.   KIDS WON'T EAT IT 

Well, I've discovered that:

* we short-change our kids too often - my 3 year old happily devoured caramelized fennel and onion, despite being disgusted at all things onion before, because she was excited to try a new food
* trying new things is FUN, if you make it fun and include them - Kale chips still make my kids crazy-excited
*  hiding veggies in a dish never hurt anyone:  cauliflower mashed potatoes, zucchini egg fritters, zucchini mini-quiches, fennel root (finely chopped) in meatloaf...the possibilities are endless!  


With a produce box not only would you be upping your family's veggie intake by forcing yourself to use up the harvest, reducing the amount of meats, cheeses and processed foods you buy, but you will also feel so good knowing a few more things:




1.  By buying local, twice as much financial support for the local economy is generated as shopping at a chain store.

2.  Local organic produce is fresher, and thus tastes better and has more nutritional value.  Plain and simple.

3.  It helps the environment - not traveling far means not using up fuel and emitting toxins into our air.

4.  Seasonal eating is so much easier on our bodies - it assists in better digestion and energy flow, not to mention assisting the soil to grow what is in season as opposed to forcing it to grow out of season with more chemical pesticides/herbicides/soil enhancers.


We are so lucky to have Harvest2U here in Southern California...they harvest from small farms within 50 miles, and deliver to the consumer within 36 hours of harvest.  


They also commit a significant portion of every purchase to assist less fortunate families in local communities through their Harvest to the Hungry program.  

Their delicious produce is used exclusively at EAT Marketplace in Temecula, where you can grub on some amazingly unique culinary delights like the Paleo Breakfast Bowl (Cook Pigs' braised heritage pork over roasted sweet potato and yam, topped with organic farm egg, sauteed greens, chermoula and avocado) and the Banh Mi Wild Tuna (shredded pickled veggies and cabbage, cilantro, avocado and green sriracha on pretzel baguette).   

They also offer EAT@Home, a farm-to-plate meal delivery program (with free delivery!) showcasing their organic, non-GMO local produce and meats.  One of our world famous locals, Dan Henderson (Strikeforce, UFC and Pride MMA Fighter) enjoys and endorses EAT@Home's amazing meals.

Harvest2U has generously offered my readers $25 OFF your first Harvest Box!  This is a huge discount, and can almost get you a free box!  Use coupon code RBN25 at checkout.  


Don't live in Southern CA?  LocalHarvest.org is a great resource to find a CSA near you.

Are you already a member of a CSA?  Tell me how you like it!
Have you always wanted to try one out?  Take advantage of this offer and up your nutrition this summer!

Love + light ~

Kim


RECIPES


Zucchini Fritters: 
Grate 2 small or 1 large zucchini, squeeze out the liquid. Mix with 1 egg, 1/4 c. flour, handful of cheese (I used random bits of Parmesan and mozzarella that I had), and anything else you may have on hand to dice: scallions, parsley, (I used dill and fennel), onion, bacon. Pan-fry (I used pancake griddle) spoonfuls of the mixture in oil (I only cook with coconut oil), flattening with a spatula, until browned on both sides. Drain on paper towel if needed.

Cucumber Dill "Tzatziki": 
2 c. plain yogurt, 1 thinly sliced cucumber, 2 cloves chopped garlic, small handful chopped dill (I added fennel, too.). Dash of lemon juice if desired and salt and pepper to taste.

Beautiful Sisters



It's been awhile since I've written...the winds of transformation 
have been swirling through me for many years now, 
but especially these past few months.

I feel as though I've been born again, 

into the skin of who I've always been all along, 

and had just forgotten about under layers and layers of stuff.  

Stuff that society piled upon me, stuff that I piled upon myself on my quest to true happiness, 
stuff that my surroundings piled upon me since I did not say no.

Stuff...lots of stuff.

As I've read numerous times, taking a look at who we were as a child can give us a lot of insight into what will make us happy as adults.  As for me, I adored all things acrobatics, performing, reading books, painting my bedroom walls all sorts of colors and designs (thank you, Mom and Dad, for letting me paint my walls purple, green and yellow with mushrooms, peace signs and flowers everywhere), and music from The Beatles, Simon and Garfunkel and The Oak Ridge Boys.  Yep, I was a mini-hippie.


After nearly two decades of stuffing my earthy nature away to chase career paths that reflected my college degree and offered stability and financial gain, i've finally awakened to how to merge all of the above and create my dream job.  

I was conditioned by my environment and society to think stability and creativity are mutually exclusive - one of the beliefs I've worked so hard to purge out of my cells recently.

This past year of intense physical strife, mental confusion, paralyzing fear and anxiety, pure despair, tearful prayers and blissful moments of clarity has brought me to emerge from my cocoon of rebirth, ready to join with my local and distant community of beautiful Soul Sisters (that's YOU!), to share what I've learned, to support and uplift and reassure, to help you rebirth yourself into the powerful, wise woman you've always been inside, and to keep learning more and more magnificence this world has to offer!

Women carry humanity, literally and figuratively.  We are the nurturers, the healers, the tenders...however, many of us are struggling with wounds and obstacles from our own pasts.  Wounds that prevent us from being fully present in our lives, with our children and spouses...wounds that fester each time they're provoked with fear, stress, anxiety.  There is much need for us now to remember and heal our inner lives in order to maintain a healthy balance.  So often our time and energy is directed outwards towards others, work family...and it is crucial to take the time to nourish and replenish your inner life, your own energy, so that what you give others has even greater value.

If you are local (SoCal), i'd love for you to join our FB group  for local gatherings of connected, conscious women for all sorts of reasons including New and Full Moons, Healing Dance, Reiki and more.

Stay tuned to my blog for exciting new offerings and be sure to check out my Shop My Fave Things page for some of the delicious offerings out there amongst our powerful community.

Love + light!

Kim


Our Alternative Journey to Helping Our Sensitive Child - Part 2

Part 2 of a 3 Part Series (you can find Part 1 here).



My next Google search for "holistic therapy sensitive children" had me stumbling upon Holistic Healing 4 Children.  


Again, I'd found another little sliver of home...that delicious, peaceful feeling of knowing this was the place for us.  I sent off an email to the owner/medium/clairvoyant Terri Allen (far away in a magical land called Dubai!) and eagerly awaited a reply.  After a few emails of me pouring out our story, rather than trying to do a Skype consultation with our time differences, she gave me a few items of "homework" to do.

Little did I know this "homework" would become the foundation of our entire family's healing journey, and also the catalyst to creating my first book, a Children's Book of Love + Lightworking, which is currently in the works!

The homework:

* Give Son a nightly salt bath with lots of natural rock salt and lavender oil (to cleanse and clear his aura and energy) 
* Massage his feet with lavender oil  (this calms kids down and balances their emotions and grounds them) 
* Envision sending white and pink light from my  heart to Son's heart every night (begins the healing process) 
* Envision white light washing over us all 
* Have Son draw a garden with an apple tree, and send it to her for analysis.


That very night Fireman and I tried the whole sending-light thing.  


It came surprisingly easily and naturally, and in my mind I saw a burst of white light spring from my heart and sail above Son lying in his bed, raining down the most beautiful, gentle white droplets of light.  It was stunning and soothing and I didn't really know what the effects might be but I did know that it felt wonderful to do it, so it might just feel wonderful to receive it, also.

For the drawing, I made sure to keep casual about the whole thing, and one day just tossed a blank sheet of paper in front of Son and asked him to draw a garden with an apple tree.  I had caught him in the right mood and he eagerly complied...here's what he drew:






This was right before his 6th birthday, and the notes I wrote were just as he explained them to me.  There was no apparent garden or apple tree, but I sent it off to Terri and couldn't wait to get her take on it.

Here's what she said:
Here is the interpretation of C's drawing of his garden. Now remember this is an analysis of what C feels and his view as a young boy. So don’t take it as if I am criticizing we are not in any way it’s the analysis of C's drawing. Parenting is a tough job! C's garden is very unusual. Firstly he feels there is no foundation within the home. No grass, no sun and no trees and no blue sky. So the home life is unsettle in C's eyes. He has drawn himself down on the left and has flowers that change colour and on the right where you are he has drawn the flowers have a leaver to remove them. So C feels that you remove things that he enjoys in his life. In the middle of the page is a pink shape which to me represents the heart of the matter ( his heart chakra or yours? )and inside the heart is a black flower this represents hurt that has acquired of the heart which is quite deep routed and is causing an issue within the family. The flower is black anything drawn in black is an old stale  dead energy that needs to be cleared. Above that pink colour ( pink represents Love, nurturing the heart chakra). Is a box again pink and black plus a bit of yellow and a hanger on top of it, again a flower in the middle which is blue this time but also a black dot. This means a deep routed problem daily as its hanging on display. There is no wall so its hanging in mid air, this means you home life is all over the place and up in the air not grounded in his eyes. An Issue that have not been resolved. There is one big black line all around outside followed by an orange line. C used the colour orange for himself which means, growth, meditation, balance, creativity. So he desires all of that. You are in blue which means calming within yourself and communication. Who is Bennett? Why is his name written in front of the drawing of your house? If you see the house its very small and none descript. But it’s in orange on the outside and then black drawn line inside, so the darker stale energy is stopping you guys from moving forward. Do you think this is you or your husband or some emotional control? Yellow colour represents joy, humor and laughter. Again its attached to the box in the centre of the page. So once that blockage is cleared and removed from yourself or your husband there can be more settlement within at home. C is very frustrated and angry at present. He feels you not understood and that his dad doesn’t really fully get where he is coming from sometimes. The difference is his dad has different energy to C so they will find it hard sometimes.  C is highly intuitive and sensitive and there for parents will always need to adjust themselves for the child to function in a  much more calmer way in their everyday life. When a highly sensitive child has an unsettled home or parent its throws them off completely. So basically they are asking us to shift our vibration out of fear and into the now and for us to shift our vibrations to a higher level.
Fascinating, right?

She also suggested Bach Flower Remedies.  

I'd been using homeopathic remedies for a couple of years already, and honestly had never thought about finding one for Son's sensitivities, but had never tried the Bach tinctures before.  They correct emotional imbalances and replace negative emotions with positive ones.  And just like homeopathic remedies, they are absolutely safe for everyone, including children, pregnant women, pets and even plants.  They can also work in conjunction with medications and herbs.

I did just what Terri suggested and consulted the little guide on the counter by the remedies and chose the ones that applied most closely for Son...his were:


Gentian ~ inspires a positive attitude when you feel 
discouraged or despondent due to setbacks.

White Chestnut ~ encourages a peaceful and calm mind when thoughts
and worries go round and round in your head.

Red Chestnut ~ allows you to love without anxiety or fear 
for the well-being of your loved ones.

Holly ~ encourages a more generous nature when you feel
jealous, envious, vengeful or suspicious.

Mimulus ~ brings courage and calm to face things that
frighten or worry you, also aids the shy and timid.

Son has always been an awesome vitamin-and-mommy's-crazy-concoctions-taker, so he happily let me drop 2 drops each of the 5 little bottles in his mouth.

Now, before I tell you the effect these little droplets (and/or the lightworking) had, I really need to bring you up to speed on just how it had been going.  If you haven't read my Sensory Processing/OCD ~ Reiki Healing post from a year ago, when things were pretty bad, it will give you a good idea.

And here's a little journal entry of mine from November 2013 - just a few weeks before I found Terri:
F**k f**k f**k!!! I punched the wall 3 times while in the bathroom and bawled my eyes out...the kids and I were all excited to go have a yummy Sunday morning breakfast at R's (a local diner) with my folks until Son put on his favorite disgusting, hole-y, stained pants which I just could not allow him to wear out to a restaurant and so the morning was ruined and my folks tried every bribe they could think of which just annoyed me more because they don't understand it's not him just being difficult, it's his actual sensitivity issue! He truly cannot stand the feel of other pants! And then mom says "well it's a shame he can dictate your life like this" and that sent me over the edge and I told them to just leave and go to breakfast without us. Her words hurt because of course they're very true...but we're seeking help to hopefully improve that. F**k. And Son was just so sweet in the middle of all of it and kind of oblivious to it all and that killed me. My dad offered him $5 to buy his pants and Son said he'd use the $ to buy a motorcycle but that he couldn't sell his pants. And he offered to wear his equally-shitty green pants but I said no, those are hole-y, too.

So, after exactly 4 days of 2 drops each of 5 Bach remedies, the kids and I were sitting on the front porch with a neighbor boy eating Cutie tangerines.

Son, for the first time in his 6 years, peeled an entire Cutie all by himself as I watched in silent amazement.  


A little bit of juice even escaped from one of the slices and dripped down Son's finger.

I waited for the freak-out over sticky, juicy fingers, but he calmly continued and once done, he looked at the neighbor, also 6, and exclaimed, "I peeled it all by myself!"  The boy looked at Son, expecting Son to show that he was only joking about being proud of doing something he himself had probably been doing since the age of 2.  When he saw Son was serious, he then looked at me, and saw me hugging Son, bursting with pride myself.  And sweet little sister was beaming, petting his hair and saying, "Dood dob, Bubba!"

More notes from my journal that week and the following one:
Leaving for errands Son eagerly climbs in the car and sees our snack bag full of apples and says "wow this is gonna be a great day!"  Wow.  Not only happy but eagerly climbing into the car!  He loooooves apples and often eats 2 or 3 a day.  

Today we went to the park, visited Daddy at the fire station, went to Ikea, took In n Out burgers to eat at my folks,' and got home after dark...a very packed day that previously would have been waaaaay too much for Son to handle....and he was FINE.  ALL DAY!!!  UNBELIEVABLE!!!  I'm so, so cautiously THRILLED!!!  He even stepped out of the bath by himself instead of needing to be picked up out of the water!  UN-freaking-BELIEVABLE!!!

Two full days of hanging out with family at my mom and dad's for the holidays and he has been AMAZING!!!  He was cracking up talking with Uncle S. and interacting with everyone so well instead of shyly sitting in the corner playing video games!  He's been so helpful around the house and eager and happy and just NORMAL.  Such, such a joy.  SO fucking refreshing and I can see I have so much more energy just not having to deal with his meltdowns.  

We visited Daddy at the fire station today and he sat on a chair at the table BY HIMSELF, held a goopy sandwich BY HIMSELF, and even ANSWERED QUESTIONS AND CHATTED with Daddy's crew!!!  HOLY shit!!!  So cool and unbelievable!!!  Friggin' breakthrough!!!  Daddy was incredulous as well, watching it all.  He sat right next to Son, ready to jump in  the minute Son got mayonnaise on his finger and threw his sandwich down in frustration, but HE. WAS. FINE.  No shyness.  No embarrassment.  Just normal.   


Fireman's text to me later that night:  


"KEEP GIVING HIM THAT SHIT."

An eloquent man, that husband of mine :)



Of course, it's impossible to say how much of it was the Bach Essences and how much of it was the healing lightworking.  But I can say that the effects of the Remedies seemed to taper off a bit after a few months, at which time we took a break from them for a few weeks, per Terri's suggestion...and then when I started giving them to him again, HOLY BREAKTHROUGH #2!

At the time of writing this post, almost 1 year from starting these remedies, this ebb and flow has remained true.   Amazing steps forward with each round of remedies, and then returning to less and less of the old ways each time...kind of like 5 steps forward, 1 step back.

Any parent will take that, right?

And I actually haven't given them to him in probably 4 months now...there's been no screaming need.

A-ma-zing.

As for the lightworking?  

Wow.  Just wow.  It has ended up being another of the most unbelievable blessings in our lives, and is the catalyst for a Children's Book of Love + Lightworking that I'm currently creating.   I'll teach you how to do some lightworking of your own in Part 3 or 4 of this series, so stay tuned and be sure to sign up for my newsletter below!

Love + light ~

Kim




Honoring My Bladder...And Other Ways I Love Myself






Ever since stumbling upon Annapurna Living a few months ago, I've been
absolutely captivated and in awe of the reverence and sacredness with
which the contributing women care for themselves.


I've been inspired to carve out more tiny moments in which to show myself
love, since the bigger moments such as a yoga class, a massage, a
fresh hair-do, a trip to the farmers market, don't always happen,
even when scheduled. Being the wife of a firefighter and mom to two
littles means always planning on being a single parent, but planning
loosely enough to weave Daddy seamlessly in, should he come home.

I've always been a doer and multi-tasker (although my homebody, highly
sensitive son has slowed me way down), but I hadn't realized to just
what degree until I started to look for those tiny moments with which
to honor myself.

I almost laughed aloud standing in the kitchen when I realized I had to
pee, and that I was going to love myself,
darn it, and actually give myself permission to go right then and there, rather than first pouring the milk in the cereal and filling the teapot with water and putting it on the stove so that the water will be hot by the time I return from the bathroom.

Nope. 

The child and the teapot could both wait 3 minutes.

I can't remember the last time I actually went to the bathroom the minute my body recognized the urge. I'm pretty sure it was 8 years ago while pregnant with my first child.

That bathroom trip was life-changing. It all evolved from there:

Sip my coffee while packing lunches and waiting on hold with a medical billing company and mentally making my to-do list while helping my toddler search for her purple polka-dot pants? 

Nope.

I will show myself love by sitting down at the kitchen table with that coffee for 5 minutes, pen and pad of paper in front of me to write down my to-do list, so that I can then focus on getting the kids ready for their days. My toddler can understand that I will help her search in 5 minutes, and can get some snuggle time in
sitting on my lap doodling...and my phone calls can certainly wait until later.

Wear my older undies with my everyday clothes to "save" my new, luxurious ones for a special occasion?

Nope. 

will show myself love by wearing those slinky gorgeous new ones my husband got me for Christmas, even if it is under my old yoga pants on a Tuesday morning.

Absentmindedly look up from composing an important email and nod/smile/comment every 6 seconds when I hear "look, Mommy"?

Nope. 

 I will show myself love by telling my sweet children that I would love to see their amazing handstand/picture/silly face in exactly 7 minutes when I am done with my work. They can practice being patient, will have my undivided attention, and I will be free of the guilt of not being present with them.

Answer the "Mommy, where are my pink birthday shoes?" and "Mommy,
when will you be done?" and "Mommy, can the neighbor come in to play?" questions through the bathroom door (yes, in the bathroom again)?

Nope. 

I will show myself love by announcing I'm going to the bathroom and want my privacy, and then ignoring any wails or questions or little fingers under the door until I emerge. They can practice their respect for privacy. 

Pick up the puzzle pieces and start a load of laundry and get a jump on
tidying the kitchen before starting dinner while the kids are out in the yard with Daddy for a few minutes?

Nope. 

I will show myself love by plopping down on the couch with that book I've been meaning to start since last year...maybe with a glass of wine. It'll never get read if I wait for a spare hour, the kitchen cleaning can wait until after dinner's mess anyway, and the whole family can help to pick up the house later. 

Use the getting-dull-but-could-be-used-one-more-time razor in the shower?

Nope. 

I will show myself love by pulling out a brand-new razor and appreciating the smooth, new glide. I deserve it.

My days have transformed from ordinary and rushed to bursting with twinkling little treasures...tiny little treasures that only I can see, but that alter my mood and state of mind tremendously, and hence that of my family.

Microscopic shifts in the minutest of daily decisions to remind me that I don't
need to wait for others' gifts or big moments...I am worthy of giving and receiving unto myself.


Love + light ~

Kim


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